Recent political, social, and civic movements have attempted to re-defined marriages that are in direct conflict and contradiction to the Holy Bible. Marriage forms the basic foundation for any society as well as setting the tone for it’s moral fiber. Any manipulation that devalues the original design for marriage will greatly impact that society. The original design of marriage involves the unification of one man and one woman.
What is the original design for marriage (Ordermige) according to the Holy Bible?
The first example of a marriage is between Adam and Eve. God gave Adam certain responsibilities, which required certain leadership principles. When these leadership principles do not operate as God originally designed then the marriage is dysfunctional.
Genesis 2:7, records that …”the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul”. God placed the man He created in the Garden of Eden. Then God created a habitable environment for him, which included trees that were pleasant to the sight and good for food. God placed the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil in the Garden of Eden too. Eden also had a river that divided into four parts. God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden “… to dress it and to keep it” (Genesis 2:15).
Dressing and keeping the Garden of Eden was Adams original purpose. The word ‘dress’ in the Hebrew is ‘abad, which means to work as a servant. The word ‘keep’ in the Hebrew is shamar, which means to protect. God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden to work as a servant in the garden and to protect the garden. Protecting the garden required that Adam become the steward of the garden. God granted Adam stewardship over the Garden of Eden. Stewardship requires a relationship between the master and the one that the master entrusts with the resources. In this case, God is the master and He entrusted the Garden of Eden to Adam.
God provided Adam with the path that he was to follow (Genesis 2:16 – 17). God instructed Adam on what he could and could not do. At that point and time, Adam maintained his relationship with God by obeying his commands.
God decided to provide Adam with a helper. Genesis 2:18 records …”The Lord God said , It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet”. That word ‘meet’ in the Hebrew is ‘ezer. Ezer means to help. Eve’s primary responsibility was to help Adam who was to work as a servant and to protect the Garden of Eden. The original purpose for the union between Adam and Eve was to work together as a team to serve and protect the Garden of Eden. Hence, the original purpose for the marriage between a man and a woman is to serve and protect the resources that God gives to the husband and wife through teamwork. The key for the husband is to become a servant of God so that God will provide resources for the husband to protect which will enable the wife to help with the purpose that God gives to the husband.
What can husbands do to maintain the original design of marriage (Ordermige)?
God calls every man to serve a purpose that glorifies His name. Noah served his purpose when he obeyed God and built the ark. Joseph served his purpose when he delivered his family from the famine that was in the land of Egypt. Moses served his purpose when he delivered the Israelis from the clutches of the Egyptians. Men in the Old Testament times were very dependent on God to successfully accomplish their purpose.
Men today have an added advantage over our Old Testament Servants. The Old Testament Servants had God on their side. Men of God today, not only have God on their side but they also receive a gift from the Holy Spirit in order to accomplish their purpose.
The Holy Spirit provides each Christian a spiritual gift that serves to benefit the Body of Christ and glorify God. According to 1 Corinthians 12:4-5, various gifts originate from the same Spirit. In addition, there are various kinds of service that originate from the same Lord (1 Corinthian 12:4-5).
Husbands can maintain a successful marriage by ensuring that they embrace the original design for marriage.
Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell PO Box 1668 Blackwood, NJ 08012 (856) 566-3267 www.advancedmarriagetraining.com
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