According to a recent article, couples can stay in love if they utilize several small daily practices. Staying in love requires basic principles that supersede daily practices. Couples can only stay in love if they understand what it takes to have a marriage commitment.
According to the article, Marriage Advice: 6 Ways to Stay in Love Forever, the following six main practices will maintain a loving marriage.
- Couple Time
- Connecting throughout the day
- Giving Appreciations
- Trying new things
- Making each other laugh
- Praising your spouse’s physical appearance
While each practice has benefits, it will not become beneficial unless the husband and wife understand commitment.
What type of commitment will ensure that couples stay in love?
According to the world’s standards, commitment is the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc. The classic example of commitment is related to the egg and bacon breakfast. The chicken is involved but the pig is committed. The chicken is involved because they continue to lay the eggs. It is a natural process and their contribution does not have to be permanent. However, the pig is committed because their involvement is permanent.
Commitment involves demonstrating that an individual will engage in something in which it has the highest priority. The Bible also teaches that the highest priority in our lives is our commitment to God. Jesus said, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment” (Matthew 22:37-38).
Furthermore, according to the original design of marriage (Ordermige), both men and women should learn certain commitments before entertaining marriage. The major commitment that the perspective husbands must have is to become a servant and a steward. The perspective wife must learn to be committed to the husband.
What type of servant should the man be to ensure that he and his wife stay in love forever?
According to the original design of marriage (Ordermige), the husband should be a servant that is committed to God. A husband that is committed to God will serve his purpose. God calls every man to serve a purpose that glorifies His name. Noah served his purpose when he obeyed God and built the ark. Joseph served his purpose when he delivered his family from the famine that was in the land of Egypt. Moses served his purpose when he delivered the Israelis from the clutches of the Egyptians. A husband who desires to stay in love forever must maintain a commitment to God by serving in his God ordained purpose.
What type of steward should the man be to ensure that he and his wife stay in love forever?
According to the original design of marriage (Ordermige), God granted Adam a stewardship when He assigned him the duty of protecting the Garden of Eden. A stewardship requires a relationship between the master and the one that the master entrusts with the resources.
Stewards faithfully use their talents and resources to glorify God. In the parable regarding the talents, Jesus teaches us that we are to use our resources to glorify God (Matthew 25: 14-30). It does not matter whether the resources are epic or miniscule. God expects men to be good stewards over the resources that He provides.
What type of wife should a woman be to ensure that she and her husband stay in love forever?
According to the original design of marriage (Ordermige), God made Eve to be a helper. God added Eve so that she and Adam would become a team. A team is a group who are organized together for some common goal. That common goal is the area in which Adam and in our case in which the man is called to serve. From a biblical perspective, teamwork involves sharing in the biblical responsibilities based on biblical goals, values, priorities, giftedness, and training. God made Eve to be a team player. God designed each wife to be the ultimate team player. A team player does not seek to be a one-person show, but works together with her husband and uses their skills and abilities in a cooperative way.
Staying in love forever will require that couples exhibit a commitment to God as outlined in the original design of marriage (Ordermige).
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