In a recent article, an author presupposes that putting the lust back into marriage requires the services of a sex therapist. Sex therapist will often delve into the turning point of the lack of desire for sex in a marriage as a leverage point. The only alternative that a husband can use to put the lust back into his marriage without a sex therapist is to utilize the Luveuphoria System.
According to the article, Sex advice with Suzi Godson: Can I get the lust back in my marriage?, a large scale research project of later life divorce in the United States found that 24 percent of marriages failed due to couples either gradually drifting apart or falling out of love with each other. The solution offered to this travesty includes utilizing a sex therapist to create a radical shift in the way that each person views each other. The real solution does not involve sight, it involves non-sexual contact.
Why is non-sexual contact important in a marriage?
In developing a positive relationship with your spouse, there needs to be more positive interactions than negative interactions in a marriage. It is best to exhibit those positive interactions through non-sexual contact which does not require a sex therapist.
An non-sexual touch such as a friendly slap on the back, a sensual caress, or a loving kiss has a powerful impact on the emotions. In fact, our skin contains receptors that directly elicit emotional responses, through stimulation of erogenous zones or nerve endings. The emotional impact of non-sexual contact is ingrained in our bodies.
Tactile corpuscles (or Meissner’s corpuscles) are responsible for the light touches associated with non-sexual contact. They are located on various areas of the skin, but concentrated in areas especially sensitive to light touch, such as the fingers and lips. They are specifically located in the glabrous skin just beneath the epidermis within the dermal papillae.
Another factor that contributes to the benefits of non-sexual contact is oxytocin. Non-sexual contact can induce oxytocin release among humans. Oxytocin is a hormone that reduces stress related responses and is an important ingredient for any successful marriage. Oxytocin is produced mainly in the hypothalamus, where it is either released into the blood via the pituitary gland, or to other parts of the brain and spinal cord, where it binds to oxytocin receptors to influence behavior and physiology.
The oxytocin receptor, also known as OXTR, is a protein which functions as receptor for the hormone and neurotransmitter oxytocin. In humans, the oxytocin receptor is encoded by the OXTR gene which has been localized to human chromosome 3p25. Oxytocin receptors are present in the central nervous system. These receptors modulate a variety of behaviors, including stress and anxiety, social memory and recognition, sexual and aggressive behaviors, bonding (affiliation) and maternal behavior.
Couples who engaged in non-sexual contact such as touching each other’s neck, shoulders, and hands, had more oxytocin in their saliva than couples who did not engage in this type of non-sexual contact. Women who reported frequent hugs from their husband displayed higher levels of oxytocin in their blood than women who report few hugs. Oxytocin reduces the challenges that people experience from everyday stressors, such as family turmoil or conflict at work.
Non-sexual contact from a spouse can reduce stress. Married women who are holding their husband’s hand have smaller threat-related neural responses than when they are holding the hand of a stranger or do not engage in handholding.
Husbands who desire to infuse the lust back into their marriage with out the use of a sex therapist must utilize the Luveuphoria System which includes the Luveuphoria formula.
Dr. Derrick and Mrs. Sheila Campbell
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Cherry Hill, NJ 08012
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Samaritan Baptist Church
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